In our previous blog, we introduced the concept of basic, individualized self-care and the six domains of the self. Approaching these domains occurs through self-reflection, loving-kindness, and an understanding of one’s personal needs. Working mothers have unique lifestyles, which will be key in developing your self-care model. A productive method of crafting your self-care recipe is experimentation with the many healthy methods of approaching the basics. Whether you are engaging in socialization, expanding your mind through acquiring a new skill or creating healthy boundaries, there are multiple approaches to incorporating these essential ingredients into your self-care recipe.
The thought of experimenting with multiple forms of self-care may seem overwhelming. However, once you find your groove, effective self-care measures will make your life easier, not the reverse. Bonus: you will also be providing a healthy model of self-care for your children. Let’s touch on some common mental roadblocks we might encounter on our journey and the reasons to persevere.
“I’m introverted.” “I don’t like socializing.” “I prefer to recharge alone.”
If you are a person who truly enjoys solitude, you may feel that social support is unnecessary. However, research consistently shows that a strong social support system is beneficial for overall well-being. Integrating social interaction doesn’t have to look like attending a party or joining workmates for happy hour. Like all forms, social self-care should be tailored to your needs. What we are encouraging are meaningful connections. A phone call to a sibling or fellow “mom-friend” may introduce the same positive response in one person that attending a large family event inspires in another. As we present several methods of engaging in social self-care, we encourage you to reflect on how you can incorporate social interaction into your self-care recipe.
“I’m finished with school; why study more?” “I don’t have time to start something new.”
Working mothers are some of the busiest people around – we get it! Why should you add something else to your plate? Psychological self-care is one of the least discussed forms of self-care, yet it provides unbelievable benefits! People who are consistently challenging themselves report higher levels of well-being and happiness than those who do not. The best part of this domain of self-care is that it can be as simple as picking up a hobby you set down or reading a book. Participating in learning activities with your child even adds a social aspect! There are so many unique ways to intellectually challenge yourself that you’re sure to find something you will enjoy.
“I don’t like confrontation.” “I prefer to stay quiet.” “I’m not good with boundaries.”
Healthy boundaries affect several domains of self-care, making them paramount to emotional and physical health. As working moms, boundaries become increasingly important in both our home and professional lives. Finding your voice can take patience, but by placing limitations and guidelines on your expectations, personal access, and energy, you show your children that you value yourself. Creating boundaries allows you to open additional space for things you love, such as socializing or learning a new skill! Healthy boundaries promote safety and stability for yourself and your family. Throughout this series, we will delve into many forms of boundaries and methods of creating them. We want to help you find your voice!
What to Expect on Your Journey
True self-care does not require expensive, consumer-based experiences; it requires us to get down to the nitty-gritty of who we are and what we require as a human being to thrive and feel safe. By engaging in self-reflection and lovingly crafting your self-care recipe, you open the door to a new world for you and your children. By taking care of your essential needs, your children also learn the importance of self-value, personal growth, and when to say, “Enough is enough.”
We hope you will continue to follow us and grow with us as we dive deeper into each domain of basic self-care. The freedom, respect, and empowerment that comes with a healthy, personalized, self-care recipe are well worth the exploration!
Additional Resources
Six domains of self-care: Attending to the whole person
Reclaiming rest: Self-care is not consumerism
14 Self Care Activities for a Happier, Healthier You